Love-Hate Relationship

Social media…the thing I love and hate


As more of an introvert, at least on most days lol, I love having a personal life that everyone doesn’t have access to. My moments of bliss and episodic moments of fear and uncertainty are sacred to me and those closest to me.
Unfortunately, social media has given us full disclosure into the lives of others, many times unwarranted. Gossip is everywhere and the appeal to ‘stunt for the ‘Gram’ remains rampant. Now don’t get me wrong, I love Instagram browsing and I am an avid meme collector. I love seeing people’s creativity, their stories, their projects/videos, and budding aspirations! It’s a great vehicle for businesses and for marketing! I realize that some want to share their lives and their stories with the masses and I’m here for it….it’s just not for me. At least not at this time in my life.

So what is my deal? What makes me hate it? I’ll give 2 main reasons.

ONE. Falsehood.
What so many people inherently fail to realize is that social media is not keeping it 100%! Most of what you view are romanticized, edited, angled photos. How many of us have taken 12+ selfies in a row, then proceeded to scrutinize each one with more attention than we ever paid in school, before selecting one and applying various filters until we find the perfect match?! Ah-ha, NOW we have something worthy of posting. C’mon now….what kind of life is that? I have my moments where that is totally me, but I don’t believe it’s a good habit at all. I’ll never forget one night while attending a Beyonce concert in Houston, TX…instead of enjoying such a wonderful performance most people were on SnapChat and Instagram and FB filming the experience and seeing it through the lens of their phone. It was an eye-opening moment to say the least. I mean people were semi-ignoring ‘Queen Bey’ for social media attention! The thirst for likes is all too real. But we are chasing unicorns my friend. Chasing after something that doesn’t exist yet it is consuming us each and every day. We all fall prey to it, but let’s wake up and LIVE!

TWO. Thief.
Seeing so many flashy images per second subliminally embeds tons of messages into our minds. You often don’t have total control over what appears on your timelines. Instagram models, thriving businesses, lavish escapades, luxury cars, food-gasms, funny videos, words of wisdom, you name it….it’s all in the blink of an eye. We often start comparing our lives to the “lives” of others. Yet comparison is the thief of joy! Nothing happens overnight. People are forming opinions based on the thoughts of others without digging deeper. People are self-loathing because their Chapter 3 doesn’t look like someone else’s Chapter 18. People are breeding contempt and envy unconsciously. People are trying to ‘Keep Up with the Kardashians’ and the likes. People feel ashamed if their physique isn’t picture perfect, if their skin isn’t impeccable with accompanied ‘eyebrows on fleek’, if their backdrops aren’t ‘giving people life’. Life is not all peaches and cream, so don’t feel less than because you’re in a different situation. Learn to love where you are! None other than God has placed you where you are IN THIS VERY MOMENT. You are here for a reason!

So if you find yourself falling victim to this social media hoax….here are 3 extremely useful things to keep in mind.

1. And what is the life of this world except the enjoyment of delusion. (Quran 3:185 – Surah Ali ‘Imran)
2. Take a social media hiatus and pray to God for a spirit of gratitude. The grass isn’t greener on the other side sis, it’s green where you water it.
3. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin, your own voice, your own opinions; flaws and all.

There is only one you…so be a fruit loop in a world full of Cheerios ™.


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